“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, 'Wow! What a ride!' ”
― Hunter S. Thompson, The Proud Highway: Saga of a Desperate Southern Gentleman, 1955-1967
My Early Adventures
My father was a pilot and my first flight was out of Danbury Airport when I was 6 weeks old. I don’t remember that trip, but as a youngster my family and I would make any excuse to take off. We flew to Pennsylvania to visit a favorite bakery and to Maine for lobster. Travel has been a love of mine ever since.
Some Places I've Been & People I've Met
The Middle Adventures
At 7, I discovered my second great love and started singing in a church choir, spending nearly four decades as a church musician, including many years as a choir director and cantor. I continue to think of myself as a song and dance man at heart — a baritone/tenor — and many of my life decisions have been based on music.
I enrolled in Providence College to earn two majors and acknowledge professional reality. To nurture my soul, I studied Music History and Theory. My other major, Computer Science, addressed my practical needs. I also minored in Western Civilization, so it was a busy four years.
After graduating I took a job as a bank teller but told the HR manager I would only work for a year. That would give me the time to raise enough money to go on tour with Up With People, a non-profit group that promotes peace through understanding. A year exploring the world taught me about myself and different cultures and let me develop new friendships. Much of my personal growth occurred during discussions with cast friends and while sharing the homes of more than 70 host families. The music, the travel, the community service we performed between shows, all gave me a world perspective that shapes my work with clients today.
Following that experience I worked in a couple of bank IT departments for 28 years, broken up only by a trip around the world. (I did say I love to travel.) That adventure began at Westchester Airport flying west to JFK! Stops included Alaska, Hawaii, Japan, India and Amsterdam. I landed back at JFK 45 days later and stayed in New York City an extra day to sing at my aunt’s funeral. She had passed away while I was in India.
During this time period I also made nine trips to Lourdes, France escorting a group of pilgrims seeking healing and leading the music program with the Knights and Dames of Malta. Other pilgrimages over the years included Israel, Rome, Ireland, Greece, and Turkey where I was for 9/11/2001.
And for 30 years you could find me at the Ridgefield Theater Barn, doing everything from singing and dancing, improv, and serving many years as president of the board and the first executive director. Then I left the banking world, and the Theater Barn, to concentrate on my next act.
More Places & People ...The Later Years
The Connection Adventures
One of my most recognizable traits is my ability to immerse myself in things. And so, my life changed again when I signed up for seminars at Easton Mountain, a retreat and welcoming space for gay men that teaches the benefits of being authentic in all aspects of life. I discovered a connection with people like me and realized that my purpose in life means taking on challenges that I devote myself to with all my heart.
The courses I took at Easton Mountain, including a course called “Authentic Eros,” which focused on being truly authentic in all aspects of our lives, complemented my studies in massage and, eventually, in essential oils.
In 2015, I earned my massage license and set up my practice, incorporating oils. As I learned more about the oils, I began to use them myself — and noticed my health was improving. I attended a dōTERRA Oils annual convention and fell in love with the company’s philosophy that supports farmers and espouses purity, honesty, and loyalty.
In 2018, I was able to make another one of my dreams come true. I took seven weeks to drive across the United States, visiting the seven states I had never been to, seeing friends old and new, taking in the splendor of this great country, including some of its national parks.
After spending the past several years exploring and trying to help everyone I could, I took the time during 2020 to settle at home, evaluate again, and decide how my business could best fit my philosophy of giving and living. In that process, I reinvented my massage and oil practices for a future that reflects my past and
who I am:
I offer Adventures in Connection, helping men connect with themselves, and to begin the greatest adventure of their lives; through oils, touch and spoken word.
What it Means...
The Adventures in Connection logo portrays both reality and potential. It features a leaf of the Boswellia tree, from which frankincense — the king of oils — is harvested. Everyday kings are who we serve — men who seek to become their full selves: healthy, spirited, confident. The logo’s rainbow colors signify both the Pride movement, with a focus on men who love men, as well as the healing properties of the chakras. Together, these elements represent the journey of self-discovery.
a journey of self-discovery.
You Might Ask...
If you were an animal, what would you be?
I would be a bald eagle (already have the bald part down pat). Bald eagles symbolize life, connecting with a deeper power, following the light. They have strength, leadership, a desire for abundance, being true to one’s self and having a deep connection with creation.
If you weren’t afraid, what would you do?
Diving both sky (over Dubai or Victoria Falls, South Africa) and scuba (Great Barrier Reef). I plan on getting to that even if I’m still scared! As Will Smith says about his skydiving experience: “God placed the best things in life on the other side of Fear!”
What is your superpower?
I give fantastic hugs!
What is your life’s motto (in 6 words or less)?
Life happens…outside of comfort zones!
Credentials & Awards
CT Licensed Massage Therapist – CT Lic #008611
American Massage Therapy Association – Professional Member
CT Chapter AMTA – Member
Certified Essential Oil Coach – Essential Oil Institute
dōTERRA Essential Oil Specialist
dōTERRA Wellness Advocate
Symphony of the Cells™ Educated Professional
Ridgefield Arts Council Behind the Scenes Award – RTB - 2010
Cultural Alliance of Western CT – Heart of the Arts Award - 2014
Ridgefield Theater Barn's – Wayne J. Leiss Service Award - 2020